a note from Erin:
I’m so very excited to announce an upcoming adventure which you’re warmly invited to join. It’s called:
Bravely Befriending Yourself: A Free 7-Day Challenge
(As of this moment, registration is now closed.)
A moving teaching I first heard from Zen teacher Cheri Huber is this:
Self-hatred uses self-improvement as self-maintenance.
Often our well-intentioned attempts to make positive change can be sponsored by a deep sense of “I’m not ok. I need to fix myself.” Self hatred in disguise.
Do you ever struggle with negative self talk, a pessimistic attitude, or feeling blah about yourself?
Are you craving some inspiration and encouragement, and some fun invitations in your life?
Sign up for the Bravely Befriending Yourself Free Challenge and get 7 days of inspiration and powerful practice invitations delivered straight to your inbox.
You’ll learn fresh ways to infuse generous kindness and respect into your relationship with yourself as you rock your way through the challenge, drawing on a few of your greatest allies: Your own body, mind, and life.
I’d love to have you join me for this adventure!
And with a price tag of zero dollars, you can totally afford it. :)
It all begins on April 20th.
Sorry! Registration is now closed. Sign up for our mailing list to stay tuned for the next free challenge!
I see so many wonderful people struggling with a sense of “Something is wrong with me. I should be different.”
Is that ever true for you?
Many of us are suffering under the tyranny of inner voices that try to change us, fix us, better us, whip us into shape.
You know the voices?
The ones that might in one moment encourage you to “Go ahead and eat that chocolate ice cream, you deserve it!” and then 10 minutes later might berate you with “Why did you do that? You’re a fat slob! What were you thinking?!”
How can you trust such an inconsistent and frequently unkind voice as your inner guidance system?
You can’t. :)
The ongoing “blah blah blah” of those discouraging inner voices?
Well, the fact is, the world doesn’t need any more of that noise.
And neither do we.
One of my very favorite words in any language is “maitri” which comes from Sanskrit. While it’s often translated as “lovingkindness,” I particularly resonate with the translation given by Chogyam Trungpa and his much beloved student Pema Chodron. They translate maitri as: Unconditional friendship with oneself.
Can you imagine how your life might feel if you stayed connected in brave friendship with yourself through anything and everything?
If no matter what, you didn’t abandon, neglect, or shame yourself?
That’s what we’ll explore over seven days later this month.
Bravely befriending ourselves just as we are.
See you in your inbox!
If you know a friend who might benefit from some brave self-befriending, please send this along to them. Anyone is welcome to join. I totally respect your privacy and will never share your email with anyone.
This practice of brave befriending has been central for me for the past two decades.
I’ve had the great blessing to learn many powerful practices from a host of amazing teachers over the years.
I know from experience how it feels to live with the agony of abandoning myself (trying to be accepted by others) and the amazing alchemy and healing that happened when I befriended myself wholeheartedly.
I would love to share some powerful tools with you.
They’re simple, they don’t take a ton of time, but as the saying goes, “They work when you do!”
Engaging them even a little bit can have a big effect.
During the challenge I’ll be sending you a simple invitation to put into practice each day for 7 days.
Some written. Some audio. Maybe, if I’m feeling brave, a short video or two.
No pressure. No homework. No one to report to. Just inspiration and support for undertaking this profound journey of making friends.
And even if you’re well on the way to befriending yourself, and you don’t struggle so much anymore with voices of unkindness, if you’re like me, you’ll likely enjoy opportunities and invitations to deepen your relationship and enjoy each other’s company. (That is to say your own company!
I looked in the thesaurus for antonyms to the word “befriend” and here’s what they listed:
Block, discourage, dissuade, harm, hinder, hurt, injure, obstruct, stop, thwart, ignore, neglect.
Do you ever do those things to yourself in the interest of “helping?”
Would you like encouragement and invitations to do something different?
Something brave and kind and potentially life-changing? Join me!
I believe this with my whole heart:
“Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act just once with beauty and courage.
Perhaps everything that frightens us is in its deepest essence something helpless that wants our love.”
– Rainer Maria Rilke